The Response Missing from the “Grandma for Christmas Craiglist Ad” Story
I read the other day about the woman seeking a family for Christmas in a Craiglist ad.
She offered to be a grandma to a family, even cook and bring presents, and the story went viral.
Tons of people poured out support, and offered to let her come to their house, but she had to pull her ad because of the negative responses that were also posted.
The story tugs at our heartstrings, and everyone is reading and sharing about this woman, trying to let her know that she would be welcome.
As I read this, I can’t help but think that the vast majority of people are missing the point that they should get from this story.
Everyone has a woman or man like this in their lives.
Perhaps it is your coworker, with no pictures of family on their desk.
Perhaps it is your neighbor, that never seems to have anyone come to visit.
Maybe it is someone who you see at the coffee shop you work at, who always comes alone and stays for most of the day.
You have a person like this in your life.
Someone who will be alone for Christmas.
Someone who, like this woman, wishes that someone out there would invite them into their family, but is too afraid to ask.
She resorted to Craiglist, and that shows her desperation. How many other people are longing to be included in your community?
Don’t try to welcome her, this one lonely woman in Tulsa, find your person to invite. Strike up a conversation about Christmas or other holiday plans with someone who looks lonely.
Ask what they are doing for the holidays.
If you learn that they are planning on staying home, by themselves, reach out and ask them to join your family this year.
It’s that simple.
In our family, we have had a former coworker who was going through a hard divorce and custody situation come over for Thanksgiving.
My in-laws had their neighbor, a professor at the college my father-in-law worked for come to Christmas with us, because she didn’t have any family to share the holidays with.
We also invited a long time friend of my husband’s over for Thanksgiving another year when he didn’t have somewhere else to go.
Let this story move you, not to let this one individual know that she is cared about, but to let her be a representative of the problem of the world.
There are many, many people out there wishing to spend the holidays with others, but they are never asked.